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- If it's not too far, or the expense is not prohibitive, let them invite an old friend to visit. My experience is that they spend hours telling the old friend how great the new place is - even though they were planning to run away and go back to the old.
- This brings me to another point. If you think your child yearns so desperately for the old place that you think they might run away, capitulate and arrange a stay for them at the house of a friend. When that runs stale with too little privacy and too many new rules from their friend's parents, they can come back with honor.
- If you wait until they run away, then you have to wait until they are ready to negotiate. (Providing that they reach a safe haven.) A teen has a hard time admitting that he/she has made a mistake and needs to return home. The teen prefers to forge ahead until things get better - or until things are so bad he/she is forced to admit failure. Even then, a teen would rather think it was your fault. Don't take it personally.
- Get out and find some friends.
- Go back to work.
Note: I found myself at a luncheon put on by the local welcome wagon. After lunch there was a fashion show where they tried to convince the older attendees that they could and should wear fashionable, younger-looking clothing (all of it pencil thin, of course). At that time, I realized I didn't want to be there, I didn't like the people I was meeting, and what I really wanted to do was go back to work. I love working.
Still, I stayed at home until I knew where my teens liked to go and who their friends were and only then went to work.